So The Question Becomes…

I’m facing a dilemma.

On the one hand, I’m thinking of doing a master’s degree. The program I want I could do in one year. But I would have to do it in another city a few hours away.

Or, I could do a different program here that would only take 8 months. And it could probably get me a good job too, just not as specialized as I want to be.

But I’ve only been living in this city for just over two years now. I’m just starting to plant roots, to build a life here with my boyfriend who I’m now living with.

So the question becomes… when do you put the thing you want for the long term ahead of your short term needs and the needs of those you care about? With all of the anxiety issues I had after moving the first time, part of me is afraid to move again. And sure, it’s only about 4-5 hours drive away, and we could easily see each other on weekends if we wanted to. But I know us, and I know we’re both busy and lazy, and I know we won’t see each other as much as we say we will. And I really don’t want to feel like I’m being selfish by focusing so much on myself, even though I know he would support me either way.

I’m just worried that if I don’t do it I’ll always regret not putting my career first…


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About janinerussell

The transition to adulthood; reflecting on the past to create a better future.

3 responses to “So The Question Becomes…”

  1. Sloppy Etymology says :

    Career first. You will always think about it later and have to figure out if it’s a missed opportunity. A regret. No one needs that. It’s haunting. I speak from experience.

  2. Dustin John says :

    Too many other variables that are not mentioned for a strangers amature opinion. 🙂 I would drop the “selfish” thoughts of it were me. There is nothing selfish about knowing what you want from life. Good luck on your decision. Reason=virtue=happiness.

  3. slmanning says :

    I wouldn’t call this a selfish decision at all.

    While I can relate to the anxiety issues, sometimes you have to pick what will give you the best long term shot at success. If you want to be specialized to the level that the year program will provide, that would seem to be the choice. Just take the leap that busy and lazy or not; your boyfriend and you will make it work.

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