How To Be A Better Failure
Failure sucks, especially when you know you’ve worked really hard, tried your best, and failed anyways. That’s what I’m going through right now I with a finance course I’m taking at university. I did all the readings and practice tests, and was doing pretty well on them. Then I took the exam, and failed. To make it even worse, I’m a perfectionist. It’s hard for me to face the fact that this is something I’m just not good at no matter how hard I try.
I faced a similar situation over the summer when I took a music course that I spent about 10 hours a day for a month practicing for, and failed the final exam anyway. Luckily I got to re-test, and ended up passing the second time. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t devastated after the initial failure, and spent a few hours bawling my eyes out and beating myself up for not being good enough.
So, what should we do when faced with failure?
Accept it. You can’t change the past, but you can learn from it. Stop being so much of a perfectionist! You aren’t perfect. No one is. So stop expecting perfection from yourself. Don’t let the fear of failing stop you from trying again. Tomorrow is a new day, and you have the opportunity to make it better than today. Never give up on yourself.
And if you’re looking to practice failing (because let’s be honest, if we failed more we wouldn’t be so devastated by it when it happens), try something new that you know you won’t be good at. Take up knitting. Challenge someone to a game of pool. Learn to swim if you can’t already *shifty eyes*. The more you realize that failure doesn’t mean you’re a deficient human being, the easier it will be to accept it and move on.
Keep on fighting. You can do it.
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Hey all! Janine here.
This blog is to help me understand what is going on in my life, because I find that until I share my experiences it is hard to make sense of them and what they mean to the bigger picture. When there's nowhere else to turn, your typewriter is there to listen without judgment, and just let you bleed.
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