When Did It Become Women Vs. Women?
On my first day of a 4th year university business class, the teacher (a woman) asked us all to tell the class a bit about ourselves. I told them I’m in the military. The teacher just looked at me with her eyebrows pressed together snootily as she said, “isn’t that… rare… for a woman?”
In this moment I realized two things.
First, I realized that I respected this woman. I knew nothing about her, other than the fact that she was clearly knowledgeable about business, had taught in other universities to masters students as well as undergrads, and she must therefore know what it’s like to compete in a man’s world.
Second, I realized she was judging me. One of my coworkers once said that there’s only three reasons a woman joins the military: to find a man, escape a man, or be a man. I didn’t know which category she thought I fell into, but she was drawing conclusions about me because of it.
And to think, for a moment there I was thinking about how I want to be like this woman when I’m older and have a decent job. I want the respect I’m sure she has earned over the years.
But I really have an issue with the way she seems to view women in male-dominated career paths. It’s amazing how unsupportive women can be towards other women. So much for the “sisterhood” that some feminists like to claim exists as a type of bond of solidarity that connects all women.