The main problem I have with Valentine’s Day is that it makes people feel like one day per year they are obligated to prove their love for someone by giving them material things. It’s more of a social comparison than it is a real expression of love. If you really love someone, you shouldn’t need to prove it. You shouldn’t need to buy them flowers and chocolates and treat them to an expensive dinner. It bothers me when people compare the things they do with or get from their partner. Mostly girls, talking about how he bought her a necklace and flowers and… what did you get? Nothing? He obviously doesn’t love you as much as my guy loves me. There should be no pressure to increase commitment, or worries of disappointment. And disappointment is exactly what most people end up with on Valentine’s Day.
This is the first year I’ve had a valentine. I mean, usually my friends and I say we’ll be each others’ valentines. In fact, one year they handed out half hearts with a mushy phrase on it to everyone in my high school (about 600 people), and of all the hearts that were cut up, mine matched my best friend’s. It said “special moments”. That day blew my mind, because the odds of that happening are so slim. She will always be my unconventional valentine.
But back to the point, I’ve never had a real valentine. Last year James and I were dating, but he was far away at the time. I don’t even remember if we talked that day. I’m excited to spend my evening with him, but also have some anxiety about it. I don’t want him to feel like he needs to prove he loves me by buying me things. I would love to get flowers, though, because I’ve never had a man buy me flowers and think it would be a sweet gesture. I’m an old school romantic, and would absolutely melt if he gave me a red rose. One is enough. Let’s not go overboard here.
I’ve actually found the perfect valentine for him on the internet. I set it as the feature image for this post. Why is it so perfect? Because I know he’s going to respond by saying “haha Life Alert… old people falling and hurting themselves ahahaha… I mean eww why is it so nauseatingly cute somehow?”
If I could do anything on Valentine’s Day, I’d invite James over and have him cook me dinner. Then we’d play video games and he’d serenade me with his guitar. Oh wait, that’s what we did last Saturday. Okay then. I’m content. Wouldn’t mind a repeat though cause that was a really awesome day. As long as it ends with cuddles and him being cute, I’ll be happy.
And if you’re single this Valentine’s Day, just think about the money you’re saving, the stress you’re avoiding, and the disappointment you won’t be feeling when your ridiculous expectations aren’t met. I can guarantee that if you stay in and watch a movie while eating take-out Chinese food, you will have a better valentine’s than 80% of people in relationships.