The Power Of Anonymity
People have told me they like how honest my writing is. Well, the only reason I am willing to do that is because I don’t know most of you. In fact, only one of my readers actually knows me in real life. The rest are all strangers, and that’s a powerful thing. With strangers you don’t feel the need to hold back, or try not to offend. You can say what you mean, and if they don’t like it they aren’t required to stay and listen. There is a kind of freedom in being anonymous that lets you really let loose.
To be honest, if you’ve read a few of my posts, you probably understand me on a deeper level than most of my relationships. I don’t even let my boyfriend read most of what I write. That’s because in real social situations we behave in a way to try to please the people around us. Where you are significantly affects how you act (like the differences between hanging out with friends and having dinner with your significant other’s parents. And if you act the same in both those situations…I’m not sure if I envy you. I find the whole concept boggling.). We are all constantly watching, judging, coming to conclusions based on small pieces of information because that’s all we are being given from each interaction. And if you think you aren’t judging, you’re lying.
Well, what if you were in a place where no one was watching?
It occurred to me that no one here would know if I was telling what appeared to be the honest truth, or blatant lies. For all you know I’m a monkey with the clever ability to string words together. I might be an 80-year-old man living in Peru who gets kicks out of pretending to be someone else. You just don’t know.
Obviously I’m neither of those things. Though sometimes I wish I was just a clever monkey. Or maybe we’re all just clever monkeys. In any case, everything I say on here is the complete and honest truth. And it is a wonderful thing to be able to actually say what you want to without worrying about how you come across, or whether you offend someone, or whether they like you.
And despite all the differences between us, people are able to find commonalities, and it brings them together. We want to be with people who are like us. We need that sense of belonging to be able to function. We need to feel like even though there is a lot we can’t control in the world, there are still people out there who want to help, and are willing to listen. For many people including myself, that is exactly what blogging is able to give them, and it’s enough.
And I think that’s pretty damn cool.
About janinerussellThe transition to adulthood; reflecting on the past to create a better future.
Hey all! Janine here.
This blog is to help me understand what is going on in my life, because I find that until I share my experiences it is hard to make sense of them and what they mean to the bigger picture. When there's nowhere else to turn, your typewriter is there to listen without judgment, and just let you bleed.
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